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This week’s Poly Weekly #223: Communicating while angry & realism in relationships</a>.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Announcements

• Anal sex in accordance with God’s will
• Polyagony: The mixed feeling you get when your sweetie is dating someone new. A mixture of: “I’m so happy for you!” with “Teehee! Tell me all the juicy details!” with, “But I’m still pretty, right?”
• Ann Arbor Poly Network: munch the second Friday, 7:30 p.m., at Pizza House; discussion group third Thursday at WRAP (319 Braun Ct.)

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Joreth
Pepper

Topic: Communicating while angry</a>
From the forums: a different way to communicate when angry

Topic: Realism in Relationships
Jenny Block wrote this response to Tiger Wood’s cheating: monogamy isn’t realistic. How would you respond? Thanks to JazzDuck for commenting via Twitter!

Happy Poly Moment
Courtesy of PolyWolf

Feedback
Vim wrote in about poly anime, Marmalade Boy

Wrap-up
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http://questionablecontent.net/view.php?comic=1556

http://www.overheardinnewyork.com/archives/021170.html

Female teenage hood rat #1: Yeah, he broke up with her. She was too quiet all the time, too soft.
Female teenage hood rat #2: (mumbles incoherently)
Female teenage hood rat #1: Yeah, now he wants to kick her ass.

--Q4 Bus, Queens

http://www.overheardinnewyork.com/archives/021169.html

Collegiate #1: I can't believe that asshole MTA called the cops on us.
Collegiate #2: Seriously, isn't it enough that we risked our lives crossing the subway tracks to get to the other side? Fuck that guy, we wasted $2.00 and then had to take a cab to escape the police.

--Columbia University

http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/Motherjones/mojoblog/~3/uaWFSALRT0M/poor-children-prescribed-antipsychotics

Poor children are more likely to occupy prisons and live near hazardous waste facilities than their middle-class peers—and now, The New York Times reports, children covered by Medicaid are prescribed antipsychotics at a rate four times higher than children whose parents have private insurance. Even more troubling: The FDA has approved many of these drugs to treat only schizophrenia and bipolar disorders, but doctors have been prescribing them to poor kids who suffer from more common conditions like attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), aggression, and "persistant defiance," which are often diagnosed by family doctors instead of psychiatrists.

The reason for this disparity? Medicaid often pays much less for family counseling and psychotherapy than private insurers do, and families living below the poverty line don't have time to attend counseling and therapy sessions anyway, the article posits. Poverty itself can exacerbate the many problems the kids are receiving medication for:

Experts generally agree that some characteristics of the Medicaid population may contribute to psychological problems or psychiatric disorders. They include the stresses of poverty, single-parent homes, poorer schools, lack of access to preventive care and the fact that the Medicaid rolls include many adults who are themselves mentally ill.

But drugging the poor doesn't come cheap:

Even though the drugs are typically cheaper than long-term therapy, they are the single biggest drug expenditure for Medicaid, costing the program $7.9 billion in 2006, the most recent year for which the data is available.

Since a large portion of state Medicaid spending is financed by grants from the federal government, pharmaceutical companies receiving Medicaid revenues benefit from overmedicating the poor, and so does the government, which receives a portion of the pharmaceutical companies' revenues from sales to Medicaid patients. Something to think about, given the fact that Congress is currently hammering out health care legislation that could increase the amount of people on Medicaid by 15 million.

     

http://www.overheardinnewyork.com/archives/021168.html

Dumb girl #1: They, like, have a really good beet salad and it like, has beets in it!
Dumb girl #2: Wow! Really?

--W 4th & 12th St

Overheard by: westbear

http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/years/2009/1214092xmas1.html?link=rssfeed

http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/years/2009/1214092xmas1.html

http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/Motherjones/mojoblog/~3/E0GJ7u-6CVs/was-obama-right-about-rick-warren

Sometimes a little public outrage goes a long way. On Wednesday, Rick Warren, the California mega-church pastor who delivered the invocation at President Obama's inauguration, ended his uncomfortable silence on anti-gay legislation in Uganda by condemning (via YouTube) a proposed measure that would make homosexuality punishable by death. (Warren's Twitter feed suggests he’d been a bit more active behind the scenes). That same day, citing pressure from Ugandan pastors—Warren is huge there—politicians temporarily dropped the proposal. Ugandan President Yoweri Musevini's spokesman issued a statement blaming outside activists for derailing the legislation:

"The Anti-Homosexual Bill 2009, yet to be tabled on the floor of parliament, has attracted unnecessary hullabaloo," said the spokesman. "Some Western countries, with their characteristic condescending attitude, are already threatening to cut aid if that bill is passed into law." (h/t Episcopal Cafe)

     

http://www.overheardinnewyork.com/archives/021167.html

Old man: Enjoy your cancer.
Underage smoker: Thanks, man! You too!

--73rd & Columbus

Overheard by: Fish

cunningminx

• 17:49 Hangin' w #
• 17:50 Hangin' with @mistressmatisse and a roomful of boobs at LRC. Lovely view! #
• 17:53 "I need a special occasion to wear underwear"--@mistressmatisse #
• 18:08 PSA: "Ribbed for her pleasure" isn't. No one likes them. That is all. #
• 21:50 Tra la la! Earlier, Max gagged & tied me with a red ribbon from a gift. Such a lucky girl to have such deliciously perverted friends! #
• 11:52 RT @devonlougheed: @CunningMinx from @polyweekly joins The Exploding Sandwich re: kink, celery, &"duck soup." iTunes: bit.ly/prMmn #

http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/Motherjones/mojoblog/~3/sdSh4NMhqo8/update-foreclosureland

In August, I wrote about the Obama administration's flawed $75 billion homeowner rescue effort, the Home Affordable Modification Program, and therein introduced readers to Florida homeowner Kristina Page. Page's mortgage company, Saxon Mortgage Services, first told her it hadn't heard of HAMP. Then, when Saxon finally admitted Page into the program, it lost her paperwork and told her multiple times to send more copies of the same information even though she knew the name of the employee who'd signed for the originals.

Page eventually made it into HAMP's trial period, a test run during which she had to make to three lower payments on time to qualify for the permanently lower, more affordable payments. After the test run, Page's mortgage company, per HAMP's guidelines, re-examined her financial information and recalculated what her permanent mortgage payments would be. Here's where, like so many other homeowners, Page ran into trouble. "As I feared," she recently wrote me, "the permanent payment is much higher than the trial period estimate payments." On the face of it, her new monthly payment will be $40 less—hardly much help when you consider the mess Page's been through to participate in HAMP.

It gets worse. Here's why, in Page's own words, Saxon gave her higher—and as it turns out, incorrectly calculated—HAMP payments:

I couldn't figure out how they had our income so high, so as I told you I contested the numbers. Saxon called this morning and I explained my problem. [The Saxon employee] checked into it and called me back with this gem. She said, "The extra income is because there is a letter in your file stating your sister Samantha will be contributing $1300 per month toward your household income"...I am an only child...I don't have a sister Samantha or any other sister. She [the employee] apologized profusely and even said, "This is all our fault"...I almost dropped the phone.

     

http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/years/2009/1214091cheerleader1.html?link=rssfeed

http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/years/2009/1214091cheerleader1.html

http://www.overheardinnewyork.com/archives/021166.html

Girl: Do you think it's inappropriate to wear black to a funeral?
Guy: Um, no. Why would it be?
Girl: Well, its just so... depressing. It's so cliche!

--1 Train