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Vultures [Jul. 16th, 2009|09:22 am]

male_dom

[roguepunx]
[Current Mood | stressed]

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VERY adverse reaction to particular smell [Jul. 16th, 2009|03:51 am]

fibromyalgia

[koikana]
This may not necessarily be on topic, but I don't know who else to ask...

Most of my life I have had a bad relationship with mint.

When I say mint, I actually mean all forms of mint, peppermint, spearmint, Mentholatum, and in some forms, although I've read they're unrelated plants, eucalyptus and tea tree oil.

When I smell these things, and I have an acute sense of smell, it can be across the room, my throat closes up and starts me coughing, and my nausea starts to set in. A couple times when I accidentally popped a piece of mint gum or mint toothpaste (until five years or so ago, I was stuck with kid's toothpaste, thankfully, cinnamon became very popular)

I've only become concerned about it lately- I was at a friend's house and had to shower, and with my glasses off, threw some tea tree oil shampoo on my head before realizing it. My throat closed up almost immediately and passed out- let me tell you being pulled out of a bathroom soaking wet and completely naked is not fun.

Also, I discovered something else- it's NOT an allergy, as I've always assumed. A friend was eating some chinese food and I said it smelled fantastic. She gave me some, and after I ate quite a bit, she listed the ingredients- one of them being mint leaves. I couldn't smell the mint. I was convinced I simply was stuffy and didn't realize it, until a friend decided to test this with altoids- I nearly vomited from the scent. I had NO adverse reactions when I couldn't smell it.

The fact that my reactions are getting worse bothers me, but I'm not sure how to bring it up to my doctor. "I hate the smell of mint, gee, what can we do?"

I mean, I doubt she can help me, and there's not necessarily anything social I can do about it- I'm a smoker (yeah, I know) and my city just passed a smoking ban in restraunts and such, but they hand out mints after dinner.
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"Out of cope error, redo from start" [Jul. 16th, 2009|02:53 am]

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Author Chat Intro [Jul. 16th, 2009|02:33 am]

circletpress

[superqueeroes]
[Current Mood | curious]

Hey, folks,
I'm Ellen Tevault. I mainly write GLBT and erotica fiction. I have wanted to publish with Circlet Press for years. I have tried several times and several stories over the years. After I received a rejection from Cecilia for Medusa's Mistress with a very indepth critique, I knew I was getting closer. Medusa's Mistress ended up being published in Ultimate Lesbian Erotica 2008 based on that critique. I have been published in almost 15 anthologies. I am so excited about my story, Transplant being published in Up For Grabs edited by Lauren P. Burka. At first I thought it was my first published transgender story, but then, I remember that I published a trans version of Cinderella, titled Genderella: A Sid and Ella Tale in Faster Than Light zine and my gay FTM superhero erotica story published in Ultimate Gay Erotica 2008.

I think that's all I can think of for the moment.

Thanks for the opportunity to chat with you. I'm open to questions. Shoot away.

Ellen
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From Twitter 07-15-2009 [Jul. 16th, 2009|01:59 am]

tehuti

  • 03:11:46: Micah__Taylor: Got in line for Potter early, good seats. Movie was pretty much what it should have been. Review tomorrow. Falling on nose now. :-)
  • 11:25:16: Micah__Taylor: @miashell Wow. That's not something you ever expect to hear. Sorry, hon. :-(

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"Let's call the calling-off off" [Jul. 16th, 2009|01:53 am]

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Writer's Block: 5//7//5 [Jul. 16th, 2009|01:29 am]

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Sum up your day in the form of a haiku.

Submitted By [info]cpnspuff


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Three loads washing done
New shoes cross bridge in the sky
Dinner and movie
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Sat 7/18 Santa Clara "Rope Dance" class [Jul. 15th, 2009|04:50 pm]

fd_midori
Hope to see some of you!

:)
Midori

~ ~ ~ ~ ~ 
"Rope Dance: Dynamic Passionate Movements" with Midori

Presented By: Midori
When: 6:00 PM to 8:00 PM
Cost: $20 for Edges Members with Card, $25 for Guests and those without Edges Card.
RSVP: education@edges.biz
Pre-Sale Tickets: https://edges.ticketleap.com/A-Rope-Dance-with-Midori-07-18-2009-07-00

A hands-on movement class using rope in a entirely new way... Learn to dance, stretch, seduce, power-exchange and connect at a deeper level using the rope in a whole new way. If you think rope bondage is just about tying knots, you're missing the core of rope seduction. This is the foundation of truly sexy and evocative rope bondage scenes. No rope experience necessary. Adjustable to all fitness and mobility levels. It’s also a great new path to explore deeper leather intimacy.

How to prepare: Wear comfortable clothing. Bring your own ropes or ropes provided by Midori.

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Confessions of a Tampa Bay Call Girl Part 2 [Jul. 16th, 2009|01:05 am]

sexstories

[rabidnickrefer]
Last week I encountered my first call girl, “Broadway Mary,” when I stopped to ask for directions. Mary claimed she was in Ybor City on “business” that had fallen through; she asked for a ride home. She was reasonably attractive, and I was completely lost, so I complied....


I uncovered so much.....

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Harry Potter [Jul. 15th, 2009|10:14 pm]

interracial

[listentomeee]
 Fangirl here.  Just saw the newest movie.  Seemed to be an unusually high amount of interracial relationships and flirting, though none that pulled through at the end (although the reasons for them failing don't seem to be racism, just convenience).  I just kind of thought that this is more or less the only movie I can think of where interracial dating, flirting, and friendship is just something that HAPPENS, instead of something that the characters need to bring up every other minute and think about and be commended for and attract criticism for.

I mean yes, on the one hand, it would be cool to watch a movie where not only does Daniel Radcliffe get asked out by a hot black chick with an Afro, but he actually dates her.  But alas, this does not happen in the book, and frankly, it's the only time it seems to have EVER happened in the media.  I'm wondering: is it British media that's so much more evolved than us?  Or is it the fact that the main characters and their actors are all under 25?  Because while my mother is the time to actually think about this, me and my friends just....do things.  Hot person looking at me?  Immediate reaction: hit on regardless of race.

Or maybe I was just mesmerized by the magic that is people with British accents and big ol' afros.
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Weather skills [Jul. 15th, 2009|11:15 pm]

fibromyalgia

[xgirasolx]
I would be the best weather person ever. Within 24 hours or so.

I had a good couple of days with it being sunny, and I even worked! I am picking berries at a local farm, 4 hours, and they are highbush blueberries so I don't need to bend. My feet get a little sore with standing and my back flares and I need a nap when I get home- but I'm doing it!

This afternoon I started aching fiercely and I became exhausted even after a nap. I can't even lift my heavy quilt up my joints and muscles and everything are aching and throbbing so much.

I just checked the weather, and, oh look, thunderstorms are on their way in. Rain and pressure changes KILL me, so at least I have a reason why I'm flaring.

I'm more accurate than the weather person :-) I should apply and just put fibro in my qualifications, lol.
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(no subject) [Jul. 15th, 2009|08:18 pm]

bisexual

[mactavish]
The Guardian's Gary Nunn gets it right:
There's a notable lack of funded robust research on modern attitudes towards bisexuality – reinforcing the invisible and undesirable status it suffers from. But like many stereotypes, it's possible to detect the characteristics that form the multiple-discriminations against bisexual people. And they're as specific as they are damning, coming from both gay and straight people.</p>

General unpleasant – and unproven – stereotypes tend to depict bisexual people as greedy, selfish, indecisive, attention-seeking, incapable of fulfillment, shallow, fickle, trend-followers, unreliable, dishonest, untrustworthy, anti-monogamy or just plain odd.

Bi-phobic stereotypes are expressed by some gay people too. This is shocking, given that you might reasonably expect gay people to appreciate the effect of bigotry and empathise. Bisexuality is sometimes referred to as a halfway house – a temporary holding sexuality on the way to homosexuality – suggesting bisexual people are confused or in denial. Other bi-phobic gay people claim bisexual people aren't seen to pay their dues to the gay community, but reap the benefits of equality campaigning when they decide to enter a same-sex relationship. They're therefore sometimes excluded from the gay community, but also not trusted by potential opposite-sex partners.



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Oh no, Peta, no! [Jul. 15th, 2009|10:49 pm]

liamstliam
John Carlson
Des Moines Register


And you thought the Butter Michael Jackson strangeness couldn't get any stranger.

Wrong.

The often-detested, sometimes-loved and always-controversial People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals thinks Michael Jackson's image most definitely should not be sculpted in butter at the 2009 Iowa State Fair.

Heck, PETA doesn't even think the butter cow should be made out of butter.

The animal rights organization recommends using something called "Earth Balance," which it describes as a "nondairy buttery spread." Either that "or another vegan spread instead of butter."

Not likely, since the butter cow is one of the most popular attractions at the fair every year, the display is sponsored by the Midwest Dairy Association and the fair is a meat-centered food extravaganza where pork chops on a stick are more popular than cotton candy and deep-fried Snickers bars.

So count on the cow being there, its butter body kept cool at a constant 40 degrees in its usual place of honor in the Agriculture Building.

Jackson's presence is up to Iowans, who are voting in an online plebiscite. Go to www.iowastatefair.org and tell them what you think.



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Wednesday evening: Stuff, just stuff [Jul. 15th, 2009|10:41 pm]

liamstliam
1. A hearty Liamverse welcome to [info]hotspurre and [info]kdsorceress!

KD's icon has the Citgo sign in the background!

2. My wife just deposited a dish containing fresh brownies covered with locally made Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough ice cream.

3. Earlier this evening, she made the filling and dough for baked pakoras.

4. Work is cranking up and getting busier. Week after next I will actually be going out and working with kids on portfolios and resumes.

5. We won't be going to War Camp this weekend in Eisental. Just too much going on. I am afraid that event is going to be a casualty of the change in Pennsic dates, and for us in this area, the two preceding weekends are taken up by GNEW and Northern Region War Camp.

Either that, or it -- and other events -- are going to start becoming more regional rather than kingdom-wide.

I do think that there might be an argument for a decent-sized event on the weekend before Labor Day, now that Pennsic ends a week earlier.

6. The secrets of gyros, as explained by the New York Times. There is also video.





7. I was actually not going to post tonight, but then I saw this:



Chicken Fried Bacon

This ode to bacon won the award for Best Taste at the 2008 Big Tex Choice Awards. Creator Glen Kusak had been a fair vendor for 12 years running, but 2008 marked his first year entering the annual State Fair of Texas food contest.

Other great fair foods.
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Misunderstandings [Jul. 15th, 2009|10:07 pm]

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We bring with us, into our relationships, the memories of everything that came before. Sometimes those memories aren't the best, and the slightest gesture can trigger some unwanted feelings.

My biggest issue is body image. I'm never happy with my body. For many years I was convinced that I wasn't pretty enough, thin enough, shapely enough, to make my husband love me. I never stopped to think that the problems were on his end. I always assumed it was because of who I was and how I looked. Why would I have thought that? Well, because I gained a great deal of weight during the early years of our marriage, and because I had been told from the time that I was young that I was too heavy.

I look back on those childhood pictures and I don't see it. I didn't start getting heavy until we moved to the woods. Even then, regular, simple diet help would have been better than the crazy regimen to which I was subjected. I was told I was fat, but then I was encouraged to go to the mall for cheesecake. My Mom had her own body image issues. She had been a heavy teen but dropped all the weight before marrying my Dad, but she never saw herself as thin.

I fulfilled the "you're fat" prophecies by becoming fat. Yes, I have a low metabolism, but I was also never encouraged to be physical. I learned early on that the best escape from life was a good book and a bowl of ice cream.

Last year, not believing that I was thin enough, I went on a diet. Not so bad, right? But I became obsessive. I took fat blockers even though I was on a low-fat diet. I took lasix before my weekly weigh-ins just to make sure I wasn't retaining any water. I lost quite a bit but what I really lost was my health. The tired, achy, miserable feeling I had, combined with depression and painful swelling, was caused my an iron and vitamin deficiency. Seems we need fat to absorb our vitamins. My obsessive dieting made me so anemic that I had to go for tests to discover internal bleeding.

After I became lethargic I had a bounce back. I couldn't stop eating. I still have the ring around the stoma, so I don't eat as much as the average person, but my metabolism is shot and up until recently I didn't have the energy to do much in the way of movement. The rainy, miserable spring didn't help my frame of mind or my ability to get out and move. I know what I have to do, I just haven't been able to bring myself to do it.

I've gained weight. I think I put on a total of 50 lbs. since my lowest weight, measured in April, 2008. I hate this. I feel like a failure, and I even started considering a revision to my bypass. I loathe the idea of more surgery, and I don't want to do that to myself. Still, the thought that I could possibly be "normal" is out there and it beckons me in an insidious way.

I was hurt this past weekend when, in a small group of people, I was described as significantly overweight. Hurts to hear, but it especially hurt because it came from someone I love. To be fair, he was talking about me and about one other woman he dates, and the context was that we weren't his type. The man looks at me with desire, he can't keep his hands off me, but he tells others I'm not his type? He talked about his ideal woman and I don't think I fit into most of the categories. I know his other girlfriend can laugh this off ,and she readily admits that he wasn't her type when they met, but they both felt there was something there.

For me, though, after a lifetime of struggling with these body image issues, I became very hurt. I don't want to be compared to anyone else. I want to be loved for being me, even if the me has a big ass and thighs.  I held back the tears as best I could  - I hate that I get so emotional - and tried to act as if nothing were wrong.

The signals are so mixed. Later that evening he was caressing my thighs, probably the heaviest part of me, and was doing so as if it were the most erotic thing he'd ever done. I swear he looked at me like a kid staring in a candy store window. If I'm not attractive, then why does he look at me that way? What am I not getting about this?

I worry about the relationship because my experience is so limited. He's been with so many women and you can count my relationships on one hand, and have counting fingers left over. So yeah, rather than try to discuss it, I pretended nothing was wrong and tried to be as pleasing as possible.

Still, I wonder, how much of this would I ignore if I didn't have the issues in my past that have me feeling inadequate because of my size? Hey, guess what, I'm a 14! There, I said it. And in some pants I'm a 16. Oh no! Back where I was in HS.

Would life be any better if I were a size 4? An 8? Even a 10?
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Yoo-Hoo, Mrs. Goldberg [Jul. 15th, 2009|09:41 pm]

weirdjews

[countfroggy]
This is most definitely a movie for those of us old enough to remember...
and many of you youngsters as well.

Gertrude Berg dominated radio for 17 years, TV for still more 
- invented the sitcom
- was voted woman #2 - behind Eleanor Roosevelt,
- first Emmy (1950) for her TV acting
- credited with writing 12,000 TV and radio scripts
- fought the blacklisting of actors
- bigger than Oprah
Watch the clips yourselves:
http://www.mollygoldbergfilm.org
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(no subject) [Jul. 15th, 2009|09:17 pm]

fibromyalgia

[daffelin]
I just wanted to share my amazing discovery of taking cold showers. They are absolutely FABULOUS! I have to ease the temp down over a period of time to adjust, but WOW! It's like mildly icing all of my muscles at the same time. I know that excessive heat increases muscle fatigue and weakness with fibro and I feel just a nice little margin of relief standing under cooler water so I wanted to share incase anyone else out there is crazy enough to try it. I should warn that it took three tries to get used to it though but I'm never going back...
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Frustrated and needing advice [Jul. 15th, 2009|08:43 pm]

polyamory

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Neighborhoods 101: Where to buy affordable art? (part 1) [Jul. 15th, 2009|07:52 pm]

newyorkers

[davidfcooper]

Neighborhoods 101: Where to buy affordable art? (part 1)

Art exhibit review of BWAC's Summer Show 2009 in Red Hook, Brooklyn.
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Neighborhoods 101: Where to buy affordable art? (part 1) [Jul. 15th, 2009|07:52 pm]

nyc_for_free

[davidfcooper]

Neighborhoods 101: Where to buy affordable art? (part 1)

Art exhibit review of BWAC's Summer Show 2009 in Red Hook, Brooklyn.
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Opiates Don't Seem to Work [Jul. 15th, 2009|04:45 pm]

fibromyalgia

[babarian_kat]
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[Current Mood |desperate]
[Current Music |The thrift store was playing back-to-back Michael Jackson and I got shoes]

Is this common?
I still have until next Monday for my first appt. with my GP since my diagnosis. I'm not sure what to tell him. I need something for the pain. I've been in a flare for like a week now.
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Resources - for your friends? [Jul. 15th, 2009|07:27 pm]

polyamory

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Notes, Geo-Location, Pingbacks, Birthday Wishes, and More [Jul. 15th, 2009|04:12 pm]

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New Notes Feature
Automatic Detect Location
Pingbacks for All
Birthday Wishes

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On behalf of my husband.... [Jul. 15th, 2009|03:53 pm]

weirdjews

[haddassah]
So, my husband wanted me to ask the community where he might find a copy of the Apocrypha. He would like a version that is not so.....watered down. He would like a version that is as close to the original writings as possible.
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(no subject) [Jul. 15th, 2009|06:34 pm]

lordlnyc
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I am on my way to the "Bi & Gay Communities forum" being held at the LGBT Community Center at 208 West 13th Street between 7th & 8th Avenues - it starts at 8PM.
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Where Am I?/Finnegan Returns to America/Back to Square 1 in NYC 15 [Jul. 15th, 2009|05:44 pm]

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ConFail, "Kids" and the Future [Jul. 15th, 2009|02:05 pm]

satyrblade
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[Current Music |Bella Morte - "Find Forever Gone"]


This tirade brought to you by some posts about ReaderCon and some staggering cluelessness on the part of its organizers.

To sum it up: Cat Valente and shadesong have posted several observations about rude "old guard" authors, fliers proclaiming "This IS your Father's Readercon!" and an especially vehement anti-"kids" policy at this year's event. Essentially, the attitude there boiled down to, "Siddown and shaddup, ya damn kids!" I was especially struck by the "children attending ReaderCon" policy, possibly the most impatient dismissal of young attendees I've ever seen anywhere.

In a world where Harry Potter, LOTR, The Golden Compass, Narnia and Twilight busted fantasy into the maintream, I would have expected more sense than this.

Apparently not.

Now, I can understand some strictness with regards to little kids; little kids can get hurt, disappear, wind up snatched, wreck property - I get that. But "any person who has not yet had an eighteeth birthday?" Jesus. Does ReaderCon somehow magically suffer "liability issues" that aren't faced by GenCon, Origins, World Fantasy or - for Gods' sake! - DragonCon?!? Please!

If this is the con's official policy, I'm afraid ReaderCon deserves to die a quick, ugly death-by-obsolescence. 

Shadesong asked what sorts of con events or panels might attract or benefit teenage fans and talent. For my part, I'd suggest, at the very least, a panel (if not a whole track) based around "teen issues, fantasy and the future." Such issues might include:

- Growing up in a high-tech world
- Insights from a media age
- Race and culture in our present and your future
- Sex, sexuality, gender and identity at Hormone Ground Zero
- Fears, hopes and aspirations on the edge of adulthood
- Visons of YOUR new millennium, not ours

And yeah - like one teen respondant, aamcnamara, pointed out, a setting where "the grown-ups" shut the fuck up and listened to "the kids" for a change would be a very good first step. "Those kids" are people, first and foremost, not "liability issues." Secondly, with respect to the hard-earned wisdom of us greybeards, "their" perspectives, fears, aspirations, cultures, weaknesses, and most of all experiences are valuable to anyone with half a brain... not only because "teen fic lit" is the staging-ground of fantasy and horror these days but because "those kids" have always been that arena. The themes and trappings of fantasy reach to (and draw from) - at a core level - youth, not middle-age. Youth is the vanguard of the future, especially in a world which changes as rapidly as ours has these last 50 years. Fantasy, horror and SF are rooted in hope and fear, and no one understand either emotion the way young people do. Likewise, a "young person" sees his or her world from a fresher perspective than someone with long-established expectations... and often has the grit to change the picture rather than accept "life as it is." The perspectives and experiences of "young people" didn't stop being valid when the 1960s ended. If anything, they're more valid now than ever. 

Toward the end of my tenure at White Wolf, I wound up frustrated when one aging designer told us what "the kids" were "into these days(*)." Not long afterward, when I was designing Deliria, I asked several "kids" in their late teens to be a part of my design brain-trust. I needed to know, in their own words, what they craved, needed, wanted to see and were sick of seeing in fantasy settings and games. To this day, one of those "kids" (now in her mid-20s) remains a valued friend and creative inspiration. When writing the story "Ravenous," I ran it past two teenage friends for veracity; Pack Tactics got an enthusiastic thumbs-up from my partner's teenage daughters. Point being, authors - genre or otherwise - can learn a lot about craft and content from "those kids" - and make colossal mistakes when disregarding same.

"This IS your father's con" sounds more like an epitaph than an endorsement.

Shall we call this one "ConFail"? I will. :)

 

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* Said person will remain nameless, but no - it wasn't Mark. And yes - that person was dead wrong about what "the kids" wanted to begin with.

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Today's HappymakingThing [Jul. 15th, 2009|05:34 pm]

browngirl
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Wednesday Two-Faced Liners [Jul. 15th, 2009|04:00 pm]
overheardnyc

Fat naked guy on cell in NYSC locker room: I'm just leaving the bank now.

--New York Sports Club

Girl on cell: Hello? Oh, hi mom. Yeah, yeah, it's really early here. Yeah, it's about two in the morning. Yeah, the Eiffel tower was beautiful. Yeah, right to the top. And then we had crepes, yeah.

--Columbia University

Guy at urinal: I'm walking toward baggage claim, where are you?

--LaGuardia Airport

Overheard by: Next urinal

Tweenybopper on phone: Hey, Xander? We're at my house. My mom says you and Corey can't come over. Sorry!

--Starbucks

Overheard by: Kaitlen

Grumpy old man, walking alone, on cell: I can't! I've got my grandson with me!
(pause) Bitch, why would I lie to you? (pause) Okay, love you too.

--Harlem


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Sotomayor for the Prosecution [Jul. 15th, 2009|12:18 pm]
motherjonesblog

Sonia Sotomayor's all-but-certain conifirmation will be a notable victory for the Democrats, and a long-overdue victory for diversity on the nation's highest court. Whether it will be a victory for criminal justice is another question altogether--and one that seems to matter little to most of her liberal supporters.

Long before her Senate confirmation hearings began, progressive politician, lawyers, scholars, activists, and bloggers had joined together, as if in one voice, to sing Sotomayor’s praises. Beyond predictable paeans to her qualifications and her inspiring personal story, the focus of this chorus of accolades is not Judge Sotomayor’s passion for justice, her moral rectitude, or even her much-discussed “empathy.” Instead, Congressional Democrats and their allies have banded together to celebrate how thoroughly indistinguishable Sonia Sotomayor is from a Republican judge.

In their zeal to show that she is a “moderate,” Sotomayor’s liberal supporters are downplaying all her most compelling qualities, while lauding her most conservative decisions. She has rejected the majority of racial discrimination claims, they crow, and sent most immigrants packing. On criminal justice matters, she is somewhere to the right of the man she will replace, Daddy Bush appointee David Souter. The very facts that ought to make progressives cringe are instead being extolled as Sotomayor's greatest virtues, since they are the things that render her eminently "confirmable."

The most barefaced example of this rhetoric came on the eve of the hearings from New York Senator Charles Schumer, considered one of the Judiciary Committee’s most liberal members. Declaring Sotomayor a “slam dunk,” Schumer bragged

She has agreed with Republican colleagues 95 percent of the time. She has ruled for the government in 83 percent of immigration cases, against the immigration plaintiff. She has ruled for the government in 92 percent of criminal cases. She has denied race claims in 83 percent of the cases and has split evenly on employment cases between employer and employee.

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It was Schumer’s office that last month released its own study of Sotomayor’s 848 decisions in federal asylum cases, including those based on alleged violations of the Convention on Torture. Sotomayor ruled in favor of plaintiffs in these cases just 17 percent o the time. “These findings should put to rest any doubts about Judge Sotomayor’s fidelity to the rule of law,” Schumer said in a statement. “Even in immigration cases, which would most test the so-called ‘empathy factor,’ Judge Sotomayor’s record is well within the judicial mainstream.” In other words, being a Latina won’t make Sotomayor any more compassionate toward immigrants who face torture and death when we ship them back home.

On questions of criminal justice and criminal procedure, Sotomayor has a particularly substantial record—more than anyone else on the current Supreme Court, as her supporters have rightly pointed out, due to her career as a prosecutor, criminal court judge, and appellate judge. On this front, Sotomayor’s backers are promoting her as a tough-on-crime pragmatist with no soft spot for criminal defendants—even if they happen to be innocent.

Last month, the Wall Street Journal looked approvingly at Sotomayor’s record on criminal cases, in an article titled “Nominees Criminal Rulings Tilt to the Right of Souter.” The retiring Republican-appointee Souter has sometimes joined Court liberals in defending the rights of the accused and convicted—most recently in a January case concerning police searches and seizures. In a similar appellate case, Sotomayor had ruled in favor of the police. The Journal reported:

New York criminal-defense lawyers say she is surprisingly tough on crime for a Democratic-backed appointee -- a byproduct, they believe, of her tenure as a prosecutor….Following recent Supreme Court precedent, Judge Sotomayor tends to see relatively few grounds to overturn criminal convictions, says John Siffert, a New York attorney who taught an appellate advocacy class with the judge at New York University School of Law from 1996 to 2006. On the trial bench, he says, "she was not viewed as a pro-defense judge."

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Sotomayor had the opportunity to review many petitions for writs of habeas corpus--the basic Constitutional right to seek judicial relief from unlawful detention, which offers recourse to those who believe they have been unfairly or improperly tried or wrongly convicted. Progressives have for years attacked the Bush administration for denying habeas corpus rights to prisoners at Guantanamo and elsewhere. The Alliance for Justice, a 30-year-old coalition of progressive groups, has a special project called “Defend Habeas,” which states on its web site:

Without access to due process guarantees enshrined in the Constitution, people can be imprisoned indefinitely, without any hope of a fair trial or hearing, or even an opportunity to respond to the charges against them. …

Eliminating habeas turns our back on what it means to be an American, and advances a policy that makes us less secure rather than more secure. If the United States cannot guarantee rights to the citizens of other countries, what guarantee do Americans have that their rights will be respected by the rest of the world? We live in a country of laws, not of men, and in order to stand up for that tradition, due process must be restored.

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Yet for those incarcerated in U.S. prisons, the main obstacle to accessing these rights is not anything concocted during the Bush years. It is the Anti-terrorism and Effective Death Penalty Act of 1996 (AEDPA), introduced in the wake of the Oklahoma City bombing, passed with overwhelming bipartisan support, and signed into law by Bill Clinton in an election year. The AEDPA severely restricts the ability of federal judges to grant writs of habeas corpus and offer judicial relief to the convicted, even when there is substantial new evidence of their innocence.

Sonia Sotomayor rendered her appellate decisions under the restrictions imposed by AEDPA, and was subject to its tenets. But as a handful of defense lawyers have pointed out, mostly on personal blogs, she seemed more than content to abide by those restrictions. One blogger calls her a “dead bang loser for the defense.” The blog of the conservative, law-and-order Criminal Justice Legal Foundation, agreed, and praised Sotomayor on these very grounds:

[AEDPA] is bitterly resented by many federal judges....Many, many federal judges have attempted to evade it, and a few have gone so far as to declare it unconstitutional. All of the latter have been reversed [by the Supreme Court]….Throughout [Sotomayor’s] opinions, I do not see the hostility to AEDPA that I have seen in so many opinions in the lower federal courts. The statute is largely applied as written and as intended.

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A more surprising affirmation of Sotomayor’s record in this area came from the Alliance for Justice, sponsors of the Defend Habeas project. In a letter to Senate Judiciary Committee chair Patrick Leahy and ranking member Jeff Sessions, the AFJ wrote:

Judge Sotomayor’s criminal justice opinions reveal the temperament of a former prosecutor who understands the real-world demands of prosecuting crime and fundamentally respects the rule of law. When reviewing the constitutional rights of criminal defendants, Judge Sotomayor closely follows Second Circuit precedent and dispenses narrow rulings tailored to the particular facts of the case. Exhibiting a moderate and restrained approach to judicial review of trial process, she focuses on procedural issues, and she has resolved the overwhelming majority of her cases without reaching the merits of a defendant’s claim. Significantly, she frequently concludes that trial defects resulted in harmless rather than structural error. Her restrained anner is most evident in her habeas corpus decisions, in which she strictly adheres to the procedural requirements of the Antiterrorism and Effective Death Penalty Act (“AEDPA”), often dismissing habeas petitions as nexhausted or time-barred under AEDPA, even when faced with potentially credible—and, in one instance, ultimately proven—claims of actual innocence. While the Alliance for Justice believes that, where possible, judges should reach the merits of a defendant’s constitutional claims and recognize the damage that a trial court error inflicts on the integrity of a criminal proceeding, we nonetheless respect Judge Sotomayor’s moderate approach and commitment to preserving the delicate balance between the government’s ability to prosecute crime and an individual’s constitutional rights.

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The AFJ’s report, and its upbeat press conference on Sotomayor’s criminal rulings, were widely reported, under headlines like “Liberal Group Praises Sotomayor’s Criminal Justice Record,” and “Sotomayor ‘Tough’ on Crime, Report Says.” It all begs the question of whether habeas corpus rights warrant the most fervent and absolute defense only when they are violated by Republicans, and not when they are dismissed by Democratic court nominees under laws signed by Democratic presidents. 

The most powerful statement on this issue has come from Jeffrey Deskovic, who was wrongfully convicted of rape and murder at age 17, and spent 16 years in prison before being exonerated by DNA evidence. His earlier appeals had, in 1997, reached New York State’s highest appeals court, where his petition for a writ of habeas corpus was denied because his lawyer had filed it four days late (on the erroneous advice of a court clerk). The time restriction had been imposed by the then-new AEDPA.

Deskovic then appealed his case to the Federal Second Circuit, where he encountered Judge Sonia Sotomayor. As he described it in a piece on Alternet last week, his lawyer "gave three reasons why Judge Sotomayor and her colleague should overturn the procedural ruling: 1) Upholding such a ruling would cause a miscarriage of justice to continue; 2) Reversing the procedural ruling could open the door to more sophisticated DNA Testing; 3) The late petition was not my fault or my attorney's." But the judges refused to reverse the ruling. "The alleged reliance of Deskovic's attorney on verbal misinformation from the court clerk constitutes excusable neglect that does not rise to the level of an extraordinary circumstance," they wrote. "Similarly, we are not persuaded that … his situation is unique and his petition has substantive merit." A second appeal to Sotomayor's court resulted in the same decision, and the U.S. Supreme Court declined to hear his case, so Deskovic stayed in prison for six more years before DNA proved him innocent (and convicted another man). Deskovic writes:

Judge Sotomayor will appear before the Senate next week. Given that she has been nominated to a lifetime appointment that affects all of our rights, what she did in my case -- condemning me to a life sentence based on procedure in the face of an airtight innocence claim -- should be part of the discussion. I want my case to be a part of the national discussion. I want Senators to ask Judge Sotomayor if she stands by her ruling, and whether she would rule that way in the future. If I could I would testify at the Senate confirmation hearing, about the human impact of Judge Sotomayor's putting procedure over innocence. Thus far, however, I have gotten no response from either side on Capitol Hill.

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In fact, as Paul Wright, the editor of Prison Legal News, wrote to me in an email last week, Judge Sotomayor’s ruling against Deskovic would likely be seen as “a strong reason for her to be confirmed to the court since it shows she is outcome-oriented.” Wright continued:

No one cares about innocent people dying in prison, the Republicans and Democrats alike are fine with it….The courts do everything they can to avoid reaching the merits of prisoners claims and instead love to dismiss on procedural technicalities. It is the purposeful triumph of form over substance.

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Indeed, it is decisions much like this one that are offered up as proof that Sotomayor is a moderate, and not an “activist” judge--which is the current term for jurists who render decisions based upon whether they actually serve the cause of justice. The fact that progressives feel they must celebrate rulings like these in order to prove their nominee is in the "mainstream" is far more a condemnation of Sotomayor's supporters than of the judge herself.  It all goes to show how far to the right that mainstream now runs--and how willingly liberals have been borne along by the current.

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BDSM for the disabled [Jul. 15th, 2009|04:09 pm]

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BDSM for the disabled

This is for the group but kinda long it is in regards to a FetishCon seminar and my own personal experience so I put it behind a cut. This is not about a disabled fetish it is about being disabled and kinky.
”disabled )
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Sheldon Whitehouse's Spanish Gaffe [Jul. 15th, 2009|12:15 pm]
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Sen. Sheldon Whitehouse (D-RI) has done a good bit of babbling over Supreme Court nominee Sonia Sotomayor this week. He's so proud of her that today, he confessed that she gives him "piel de gallina." That would be "goosebumps" for all you gringos out there.  The good senator was obviously trying to be nice by, you know, speaking her language. But throwing bad Spanish at the country's first Latina Supreme Court nominee is akin to questioning Justice Clarence Thomas in Ebonics. How much more patronizing can these guys be? Next we'll have Sen. Kyl demanding, "comprende Senora?" after one of his windy questions. It just shows why it might be a good idea to have a little more diversity in high places. A "wise Latina" might have prevented Whitehouse from making such an embarassing gaffe. Or at least she could help him with his accent.

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Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince [Jul. 15th, 2009|03:26 pm]

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As I said earlier, I went to see the new Potter movie last night in West Springfield. Spoilers for the movie and books under here! )

Overall, I enjoyed it. It was more or less what I expected (which is why I avoid HP trailers like the plague. I already know how it is going to end, the fun part is SEEING it, so why spoil that?), with one major exception. My favorite of the films is still Goblet of Fire. The first three movies lead up to it, and the ending is fantastic, even knowing it's coming. The last two movies did not have the same impact, and the first three were all fairly typical adventure movie endings, where the good guys win and celebrate. We'll see how they do with the last two films. I'm already looking forward to them.
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found on facebook [Jul. 15th, 2009|03:18 pm]

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Originally published at parlando. You can comment here or there.

from Brady Lea:

“OUCH! What the fuck are you doing?” Instructions: Grab the book nearest you. Tiptoe around until you are hiding off to the side of a doorway. Wait for someone to pass. Hurl book at them. Record what they said here, and post these instructions.

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Fandom: The Next Generation [Jul. 15th, 2009|03:09 pm]

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The latest trigger for the latest greying-of-fandom flareup = a flyer distributed at Readercon titled "This is your father's Readercon!" (Read all about that here. Then come back.)

This flyer, and some subsequent behavior, pissed rather a lot of us off. You can see some of that going on in the comments of that post, so I do recommend that you read. And then read this and this.

What I said at Diesel yesterday, to [info]roozle (herself the mother of some kickass younger fen): "I don't want my father's Readercon. I want my daughter's Readercon."

I don't want SF/F cons to shrink in on themselves and wither and stagnate. I want them to grow. I don't want to be part of an exclusive snotty club. I want to share what I love.

And you guys, I want new conversations, and much as I do truly love next year's memorial guests of honor (Philip K. Dick and Ted Sturgeon), that's not where the new conversations are. That's not where the growth is. I want to talk about stuff that's going on now. I want to speculate about what the future of SF/F will look and feel like.

I want my con. And my daughter's con. And I think a lot of us want that. Because dude. Writers. If you're not reaching out to younger fans, how are you going to maintain a career?

So what I want to look at is not just what alienates younger fans - because I think we already have a textbook case of that in the Readercon flyer issue and subsequent comments by the head of programming there. I want to look at how to welcome younger fans. To show them that this is their place, too. To make a space for them at the table.

Because they're not just our future. They're our present.

My daughter is 14. She's been a panelist at Arisia and Pi-Con. She's participated in fandom charity auctions (she made a piece based on [info]yuki_onna's Orphan's Tales books). She writes and draws - she and her friends have a fantasy shared-universe comic/story. She reads broadly, and not just YA. She's passionate and articulate and hella smart, and SF/F fandom is a big part of her world - all her friends are geeks! And I feel like she'll be excluded at next year's Readercon, due solely to her age (note: she attended and enjoyed it last year).

So let's talk about how to welcome younger fans. I'll throw this out there for ideas and opinions. Elayna's at Explo through Friday night, but when she returns, I plan to interview her and some of her friends about this. If you know any teen fans, I encourage you to discuss this with them. Because it shouldn't be about us deciding what Kids These Days want. It should be about what they genuinely want.

EDIT: For reference, the infamous Boskone letter that this is reminding Boston congoers of. (This is why there's an Arisia. I'll leave it to people who were there to give more history on that.)
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REVEALED turns TWO tonight! (NYC) [Jul. 15th, 2009|02:54 pm]

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REVEALED RETURNS, Wednesday, July 15th, 2009 at 10:00pm

July’s 2nd Anniversary Show will feature sultry performances by:

The Girl Dreams Are Made Of, GiGi La Femme; NYC’s Most Delicious Dish, Clams Casino; Delinquent Darling, Peekaboo Pointe; The Borg Queen of Burlesque, Kobayashi Maru; The Five Alarm Fire of Burlesque & Miss Coney Island 2009, Gal Friday; and in her Revealed Burlesque Debut, Chairman of the Broad and Miss Exotic World 2004, Dirty Martini!

Hosted by the maniacal rapping four-eyed devil, Schaffer the Darklord (filling in for our beloved Bastard Keith) and his Sensational Stage Kitten Sidekick, Your Gibson Geisha Girl Fantasy, Madame Rosebud!

Join us at Under St. Marks, 94 St. Marks place between 1st and A, presented by The Horse Trade Theater Group. Buy your tickets here!

***Psssst! Are you a Burlesque/Variety performer? Email revealed.burlesque@gmail.com for a discount code!***

Slightly NSFW photos and flier under the cut )
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Bitch, Say My Wednesday One-Liner! [Jul. 15th, 2009|02:00 pm]
overheardnyc

Professor: My name is John, but some people call me Godzilla!

--Baruch College

Overheard by: Nas T. Pezz

Middle school student to friend: Nike was probably invented by a guy named like Nathaniel Ike. Get it? N. Ike.

--Marymount School

White woman on cell: So do I call you Wayne? Weezy? Lil?

--Broadway & Lafayette

Overheard by: kdice

Thug to another: What?! Upstate?! Nigga, no no no! Hell no! I ain't trustin no nigga named Chad. Who the fuck names a nigga Chad?

--F Train

Man on cell: Aw, come on! You shittin' me. Ain't no muthafucka named "gay-org!"

--5th Ave & 23rd St

Overheard by: manhattman

Teen girl on cell: My name is "princess," not "yo!"

--B61 Bus, Brooklyn

Overheard by: Tastypaper

Conductor: This is Carrol Street, named after my ex-wife, Carrol Garden. She was great.

--F Train


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(no subject) [Jul. 15th, 2009|02:08 pm]

murnkay
Poll #1430247 What should their kid's name be?
Open to: All, detailed results viewable to: All

Ed and Marienne have agreed to name their one-day-eventual child TONKA. But the child needs a middle name as well! Which name is best? YOU DECIDE!

View Answers

Tonka Go-Bot Kirby
3 (5.1%)

Tonka By The Power of Greyskull Kirby
14 (23.7%)

Tonka ABBA Kirby
5 (8.5%)

Tonka I Can't Believe It's Not Kirby
4 (6.8%)

Tonka Waffle Iron Kirby
5 (8.5%)

Tonka Hello Kirby
3 (5.1%)

Tonka Dooby Do Kirby
5 (8.5%)

Tonka Wookie Kirby
10 (16.9%)

Tonka Ybrik Aknot Kirby
4 (6.8%)

Tonka Bracket Insert Name Here Bracket Kirby
6 (10.2%)

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Did anyone under go a huge psychological change when you came out? [Jul. 15th, 2009|10:44 am]

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I'm 26 and have not taken any hormones at the moment. I look forward to taking them, I want my outer appearance to match my inner brain. I have a meeting with my psychologist on the 24th of this month. I'm hoping to get approved. My appearance has changed going from being an androgynous boy to looking so feminine that I can't use the boy's bathroom anymore wherever I go. Of course, many of this is help from my stylist. But the changes are going so quickly. They are sometimes beyond my comprehension.

I recently came out to all my friends and ever since then, I've had this huge psychological change. In many ways, I feel as if my mind has changed to get ready to accept the hormonal changes which will soon be taking over.

Once I came out, my entire personality changed. I act female now, I find myself more attracted to men, and I can do my makeup/hair with no problem now. I've always had the female internal dialogue and this if anything is part of the coming out process. I was a heterosexual male before, and now I'm becoming a heterosexual female.

Are these changes normal? I literally feel like two separate entities are in my body and that my female side is slowly dominating. I've known I was meant to be female since I was younger. Of course, I spent the last 15 years repressing this. It came out a few times while I was growing up. But this year, I grew my hair into a bob with bangs and I couldn't stop it anymore. I tried to repress it again, but it came out and I'm really happy about it.

Did anyone else experience this?
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Out in the Ozone and Tawdry Tales of Vacation [Jul. 15th, 2009|01:51 pm]

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Hello Kiddies,

Shutdown 2009 has settled in nicely. The first few days conisisted of REST that was desperately needed and catching up on a few things. I never did make it to Gunnison or Philly, but a dear friend visited and we had happy chill time. Managed to make it out to Judas Priest/Whitesnake at JB with Roberto which was a really awesome show! I had never seen Priest live and now I am certainly glad that has been rectified. Monday had a shitload of errands including my semi-annual check up, car registration & inspection, and a few other odds and ends. Yesterday I cleaned up my storage locker and finally got a new phone!

After much research and deliberation, I decided on the HTC Ozone. It seemed more user-friendly and I liked the design more than most of the Blackberry and other smartphones. Windows Mobile has a bit of a learning curve but I'll get the hang of it soon I'm sure. I topped off the day with a trip to Kips Bay to see Bruno. It was gloriously offensive and deliriously funny! I'm sure it would have twisted the minds of any of the teenys and tweenies that were lined up to see Harry Potter. Catching up on TV and some more errands later and may actually get to vacation type stuff later this week. Blogging may be light. :) Catch me on Twitter if you can. I realize I would be remiss without adding a video so here's a fave. At some point this week I'm probably going to see the new Transformers movie, but I really doubt that with all the special effects that there will be a scene that can top this.

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Bisexual Lammy Award Winner Jenny Block in Curve Magazine [Jul. 15th, 2009|01:24 pm]

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Photo: Donna F. Aceto

My First Win
Lammy award-winner Jenny Block writes about the night she won the Bisexual Lammy Award for her book, Open. Check out her article on Curve Magazine at http://www.curvemag.com/Curve-Magazine/Web-Articles-2008/My-First-Win/

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Intimacy and Curiosity [Jul. 15th, 2009|01:23 pm]

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Sotomayor Confirmation Hearings: Video and Live Blog [Jul. 15th, 2009|09:44 am]
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Your friendly D.C. bureau legal affairs reporter, Stephanie Mencimer, has been reporting live from inside the Sotomayor confirmation hearings. We've teamed up with TheUptake.org to bring you live video of the hearing (plus Twitter updates from Stephanie and David Corn in the crawl). Also check out the live blog below the video. You can find all that here.  If you missed Monday or Tuesday's action, check out the wrap-ups: Pride and Prejudice and Where Did Sotomayor's Empathy Go? Plus, two video highlights from the week so far: Sonia knows nunchucks, and Al Franken's flop.

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GOP Sen. Coburn to Sotomayor: "You Have Lots of 'Splainin To Do" (Video) [Jul. 15th, 2009|09:03 am]
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Whether you think it's racist or not, Sen. Tom Coburn's (R-Okla.) line in today's confirmation hearings for Supreme Court nominee Sonia Sotomayor certainly comes with some ethnic baggage:

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Depressing F-22 Update No. 463 [Jul. 15th, 2009|08:31 am]
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OK, maybe there haven't been quite that many. But lawmakers trying to deal a death blow to the F-22 fighter jet suffered yet another setback on Wednesday. The Senate was supposed to vote today on an amendment from Sens. Carl Levin and John McCain that would strip funding for the outmoded, overpriced plane from this year's defense authorization bill. (Obama has threatened to veto the legislation if it contains F-22 money.) There was a lot of last-minute arm-twisting yesterday, but the word on Tuesday night was that Levin and McCain had mustered just enough votes to kill the plane.

But not so fast! I've just heard that Levin has withdrawn the amendment for now, apparently because it somehow got caught in the middle of a separate battle brewing in the Senate over whether to add hate-crimes legislation to the defense legislation. Of course, maybe Levin just realized that he didn't have the votes after all. That wouldn't be so surprising—Lockheed and Boeing, which make the planes, have showered nearly $1.4 million on 50 senators so far this year. Levin plans to try again sometime later this week—I'll let you know what happens.

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Now this is a man’s man. [Jul. 15th, 2009|01:10 pm]

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This entry originated at adampknave.com.

Dr. Niles Caulder was so badass as the leader of the Doom Patrol that even though he was in a wheel chair, when you attacked him his only worry was mussing up his beard. Fuck yes. That’s a man.

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DORK TOWER, Wednesday, July 15, 2009 - Twitter Spamwich [Jul. 15th, 2009|09:00 am]
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Super Happy Robot Cartoon Twitter Spam Fun Hour

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Run, runner, run! [Jul. 15th, 2009|11:59 am]

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One of the things to come out of the post-Readercon experience is yet-enother-round of "Fandom is greying, and comicons/animecons are the only places where kids are hanging out these days. Threat, menace, or best thing since sliced Jules Verne?"

I'm of two minds about this. A lot of these people have dedicated years of service to the fannish community, and deserve respect and attention for that. Without many of these people, we wouldn't have a fandom to worry about greying and turning into nothing but comic book guy from The Simpsons. And some of them, while grey, are *not* comic book guy. They're interesting vibrant people who're ZOMG older. And yes, I think there's a good deal of "old people are icky" out there.

On the other hand (mind) there's an element of conservatism and lack of drive to invite in the newer generation that fails to see that the problem isn't the newer generation, but the older generations lack of interest to the newer generation that's keeping "new blood" from joining in. To get new volunteers interested in working a con, the experience has to be fun to them, and they need to get someone who's opinion they value to even get them to a point where they can try it and see if it's fun. Marketing failures of this sort are because of bad marketing, not a bad audience. This is where the older generation actually *is* what they're accused of being.

[ edit ] Also, older fans, don't treat new members of fandom and new writers like they have to prove something to you, or that they owe you respect. Even if I say they owe you respect, acting as if you're entitled to it or that younger folks don't deserve your help and encouragement will kill fandom. Thanks to [info]yuki_onna for pointing out that particular problem with the way the generations interact.

There's a good bit of wrongness on both sides, but I'd prefer it if the older side of fandom showed more maturity on the issues. They're older, they should know how to be mature. But fandom doesn't encourage that because it's a volunteer model. Volunteer orgs all over the world have these problems, and unless the organization heads actually realize what's going on and act to stop it, they're the source of the problem themselves by holding things in place. When younger fandom mouths off, don't write them off, reach out to them and get them to help fix things. Yes, even if you find them somewhat rude. You take revenge by handing them responsibility, not by kicking them out of the clubhouse or ignoring them.

I'd also like to see younger fandom get called more on ageist comments. I don't tolerate racefail or sexism fail, so fucked if I'm going to tolerate age fail. People, show some damn respect. If someone was a jerk, making a point of the fact that they're old when complaining is ageist. Just call that person a jerk. Being a jerk is not a function of being old.

So: Older fandom, if you're not adapting and reaching, you're dying. Take criticism gracefully, and use it to create oportunity for change.

Younger fandom, if you're not respecting older fandom, you're not giving them incentive to change. Stop being ageist.
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Wednesday One-Liners Call It "Direct Marketing" [Jul. 15th, 2009|12:00 pm]
overheardnyc

Guy selling city maps, singing to beat of nearby music: Who needs a map? Who needs a map? It's not a trap!

--Central Park

Ghetto guy selling knockoff perfumes on street: Don't ask me where I got em' from, just get em' before the police come. I got DKNY, my mami J.Lo... Get em' folks! Get em'

--23rd & 6th

Overheard by: Alli

Street vendor to customer examining knockoff purses: Hurry it up. I need money.

--Madison & 59th St

Overheard by: Jennifer

Wannabe hip hop artist: Y'all like hip hop? Please look at my CDs. Miss, you have a beautiful forehead. Please buy my CD.

--Times Square

Guy handing out fliers: Hey! You guys like vagina?

--Times Square

Overheard by: Brett


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Worlds collide again! [Jul. 15th, 2009|12:17 pm]

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Just saw an LJ post headed "Beta for sale cheap" and thought it meant something totally different.
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