September 18th, 2005

Brenda & Larry July 3 2002

Bisexuality Day

This Friday September 23rd we observe Celebrate Bisexuality Day.

The New York Area Bisexual Network (NYABN) would like to institute a "moment of kissing & hugging" in fond remembrance of the late Brenda Howard, noted LGBT/Leather Activist, the "Mother of Pride" and a matriarch of the bisexual community, who passed away on June 28th, 2005 from cancer. (For more information see

Brenda was a major figure in the modern LGBT rights movement dating back to stonewall days. She coordinated the rally to commemorate the 1-month anniversary of the Stonewall uprising, and then created the Rally and March (Christopher Street Liberation Day March) that was celebrated at the 1-year anniversary. This became the annual New York City Pride March which spawned all the other pride marches, festivals and celebrations around the world.

As Tom Limoncelli wrote in "BiSquish" ( ), "The next time someone asks you why LGBT Pride marches exist or why Gay Pride Month is in June tell them 'A bisexual woman named Brenda Howard thought it should be.'"

We are suggesting a "moment of kissing & hugging" in her honor in place of a moment of silence because Brenda was never silent!! She was a tireless activist who always spoke out against injustice and to make people feel included.

She was never silent but frequently kissed. If you still want to have a "moment of silence" please follow it by a "moment of cheering" for all the work that she did.

Please pass/x-post this request along to anyone you want.

Her partner

- Larry -
The current (2005) co-webmasters for NYABN
Larry: and Cynthia:
Brenda with lay

The PFLAG Queens Chapter Brenda Howard Memorial Award

I am on the board (outreach/media Chair) of the Queens Chapter of PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays). We had our first Fall meeting today (after taken the summer off) and I brought a motion to have an award named in Brenda's memory After telling them some of the many great things that Brenda did (dating back to the post stonewall days) they voted to add the award to the list of awards we give (see for more information). Now the kicker, they did not vote to give it to another Bisexual activist(which I wanted and begged them to do), they vote to give it to ME (which I did not want at all)! So like it or not (they would not let me turn it down - accept it in her memory and things like that) I am the first recipient of the "Brenda Howard Memorial Award".

I will be asking next year for ideas on who should get it so please start making a list.

- Larry -